Pathways to Peace

Pathway to Peace
Pathway to Peace (Photo credit: NazarethCollege)

In the aftermath of yet another violent tragedy in America, we all know that it is a time that we find and create better pathways to peace.

I’d like to share a few ideas with you over the next few days on some pathways to peace that I’ve found personally helpful:

  1. Surrendering to Peace
  2. Holding a Vision of Peace
  3. Creating a Life Prayer
  4. Choosing Meaningful Work
  5. Discovering Highest Destiny Partners
  6. Creating Enchanting Adventures
  7. Being a Presence of Peace in the World

There are some things I know about creating peace, because my life hasn’t always been a peaceful one. Today, I’d like to share a bit about my own pathway of surrendering to peace.

Peace!
Peace! (Photo credit: aldrin_muya)

Once upon a time, I was married to someone who was even more temperamental than I was at that time. We had a toxic and tumultuous marriage.  In our own ways, we were both caught up in anger at life. We tried so many ways to create peace together including counseling and spiritual practices, but for whatever reasons, it didn’t work.  I was afraid to divorce, because  I wasn’t sure what would happen to me or my children. Yet, I also couldn’t live a life of fighting and chaos.

At the time of our divorce, it felt like a lose/lose situation for everyone.  It seemed no matter what decision we made, we would lose something.  Personally, I couldn’t live without peace, and so I surrendered my dream of never divorcing.  I surrendered my goal of being a stay-at-home mom, and so many other dreams that I had. That decision and choice to surrender  for the sake of peace was the best one that I ever made.

It wasn’t always easy. While we were divorcing, my then husband lost his job, and I was faced with the challenge of supporting two sons who were then one and four years old. Through a combination of hard work and divine Grace, I went on to run a green business program for the City of Chicago, something I couldn’t have imagined doing when I was first starting down my road of peace. Now, I have my own socially responsible business, with new challenges,and the ability to work from home and live my dream of being a stay-at-home mom. When we are persistent enough, we can reclaim lost dreams no matter what we surrender for peace.

Life comes up to meet us, when we surrender and choose peace, this I know.

Eight years after our divorce, the life of our family is completely different.  We are at peace with each other.  This is because both my ex-husband and I became better people for the sake of our children and ourselves.  We are blessed with having well-adjusted, happy and kind children who have good grades in school, play sports and have many friends.  This peace takes work, and still requires surrender.

All of us must face the surrender pathway to peace at some point in our lives.

I share my story because the message that surrender to divorce can create greater peace is not often heard in society.  It is possible to be peacefully divorced with children and live a life based on discovering and living out of not only peace, but also joy, enchantment and adventure.

When we change, the world changes.  If enough people choose peace, the world will become peaceful.  Sometimes to find peace, we must surrender to losses that we’d rather not endure for the sake of peace.

If you are on the path of surrendering today, may Grace bless you and keep you safe, and lead you into deep joy and lasting peace!

Today’s Contemplation:

Is there anywhere in your life, where you must surrender or lose something, so that you can choose peace?

Can you envision a future, where your surrender to peace today, could lead to greater happiness?

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