Many years ago in the early 1990’s I read about the practice of writing ideal life statements, and I created one for myself. Within about 5 years of creating that first statement, most of the goals on that statement had become a reality. At other times, I’ve created similar pages, and have seen amazing results with this process. In my book, Writing Your Destiny, I call this one page document, a destiny scene. I’ve heard many other people describe a similar process of writing down an ideal day of your life or how you would like to live. For many people, this is a powerful practice for making intentions and understanding your own dreams. You might be at a time in your life where this process could help you now.
The problem with creating a destiny scene is that sometimes our ideals are too small or superficial. My experience in working with my own ideals and others is that our soul’s desires are sometimes different from those of our ego or projected desires of our society or culture. Sometimes we receive what we think we wanted and find it isn’t as meaningful as we expected. Other times, we receive something greater that we couldn’t have imagined.
Over time, I’ve noticed that most of us need a way of looking at our actions holistically. In 2008, I created a very simple tool, that I call a sustaining story wheel. My early work with this tool was primarily aimed for transforming green businesses addressing global environmental and social needs. I realized it also worked for individual transformation.
The primary objective with a sustaining story wheel is to emphasize more than just the goal or need an organization or person is trying to address. The most important aspect of transformational success is often the part dismissed as superficial, and that piece is the style in which we act.
By style, I mean the culture we choose to create in organizations that we lead or how our personal energy affects others. We have the power to choose how we feel and the style in which we act to a much greater degree than many of us realize. In my estimation, this is the part of the law of attraction that is most powerful. The feelings we choose to emphasize get amplified in every aspect of our lives.
This doesn’t mean we don’t feel sadness or grief or anger when tragedy or failure occurs. However, it does mean in the most trying and difficult times of our lives, we can choose a style of grace, peace and kindness over bitterness, blame and hate.
Transforming our style of living is one of the issues we are collectively addressing on a global level in 2013. It’s not what you do in the next year that matters, as much as the emotional style in which we do it. If you want to blossom and be a source of enchantment for others in the next year, you might want to take some time and ask the following questions.
What style of living do you embody? Are you kind, cantankerous, graceful, mean-spirited, loving, or perhaps all of these?
How would you like to feel in 2013 and beyond?
From this moment forward, what choices could you make to feel the way you want to feel while maintaining kindness, respect and love for others?