Sustaining Story Saturday: Changing our Agreements

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My kids in younger days when our agreements were simple.

We live in a time of great change, and one of the fundamental challenges that we face is in the area of agreements.

So much of our lives are founded on the agreements that we make.  Many of these agreements have legal and contractual basis to them:

We agree with an employer to do a certain kind of work for a particular rate. We agree to marry and commit to a partnership. We agree to pay rent or a mortgage to live in a home until we have it paid off.

Many agreements are unspoken agreements that go beyond our legal obligations.  We have agreements in families regarding our roles and obligations. We have internal agreements that we decide make us who we are.  We can also have conscious and unconscious agreements with what we see as the sacred.

Sometimes a complex set of agreements emerges such as laws, regulations and polices regarding globalization, industrial patents, agriculture, fossil fuels, etc. Changing these agreements can be incredibly difficult.

Fundamentally, any kind of significant transformation − personal, business, or societal − requires profound changes in the agreements that govern our actions.

It’s in the area of agreements that we often get stuck in our desire to transform because we are  unaware of the agreements that are holding us back.  Or we don’t want to relinquish agreements that have meant so much to us in the past.

As a parent of a teenager, I am in the midst of a major change in agreements between myself and my son.  It’s not always an easy time, as our interpersonal agreements shift.

Next week, I’ll be sharing some more ideas about making agreements that change our relationship with the world in profound ways.

Today’s Contemplation:

If you look at your life today, are any of the important agreements in your life changing?



2 thoughts on “Sustaining Story Saturday: Changing our Agreements”

  1. Teenage agreements! It’s been a long time since I’ve had to negotiate those particular agreements, but I remember the feeling well. I am sure you are a strong yet reasonable negotiator and your son is fortunate…I wonder if he always thinks that. LOL! I’m eager to hear what more you’ll share on this topic, Karen. It’s an interesting perspective.


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