Summer is ending, school has started, and life this last week was a chaotic mess. I feel like it’s time to get back to some blogging. This last week got me to thinking about how we deal with the details and everyday tasks of the lives we are creating.
I am a firm believer in the concept of consciously shaping our lives. Our thoughts create our reality. Our intentions for ourselves and others help evolve the world. To a large extent, I believe in the law of attraction and other new thought ideas. Yet, I think it can be foolish and dangerous to believe that we should only do tasks that we enjoy doing.
In the last week, I’ve noticed a number of coaches and authors writing about how important it is to ask for what we want and honor our desires. Much of this advice is useful. Asking for what we need and want in life is a critical part of taking responsibility and ownership for your life. But perhaps, culturally, we have gone too far in the direction of requiring that we should always get to do what we want with our life. We lose perspective on the idea of bringing love into what we do.
Have you ever noticed that many of the people you admire the most, do a lot of things they don’t love to do, but they bring love into whatever they do?
I recently saw a quote from the Dalai Lama — “Love is the absence of judgment.”
Sometimes, we need to bring a lack of judgment into the realm of our daily activities, so that we can love more fully.
This may not be true for most people, but I’ve noticed that the best opportunities, haven’t come into my life because I asked for them. Most of the time, the biggest career opportunities happened when I was doing work that I didn’t particularly love to do. Almost always, I had given up on the idea of doing what I wanted, and was working without attachment to results. I gave up having a judgment about what I was doing.
I’m not suggesting that we should spend our lives doing activities we don’t want to do. We should never give up our highest values and morals. But sometimes expecting to be able to do everything we want, leads to unhappiness, and a diminishing of love. Some of the people doing the greatest damage in the world have found ways to do exactly what they want to do, and that hurts us all.
Yesterday, a crew of men from Manny’s Tree Service, cut down a dead tree in my back yard, and trimmed another. This picture shows to some extent how the big the tree was that was dying in our back yard. I was so impressed with how quickly they worked as a team. They were so good at what they did, and I really appreciated their efforts.
There is so much work to be done in the world that is needed, but not necessarily glamorous, esteemed or highly lucrative. How do we honor this kind of work more fully? Frankly, the majority of the world’s population is doing work that is undervalued, and it doesn’t need to be that way. The very least we can do, is value our own work.
This last week, I did a bunch of things that I didn’t particularly want to do, but activities that were needed. It was the first week of school for my sons, and I felt that my primary profession this week was chauffeur. Work projects came up that I hadn’t expected and took me away from my plans for the week. Not much of this last week was devoted to doing things that I love to do. One night, this week, I was struggling with feeling trapped and worrying how small my life seemed to be.
When I look back on this week, I remember that creating love in our lives and our world is often not particularly exciting. For me, the actions I took supported my overall intentions of being a good parent, a good steward of the earth, and working with people I respect deeply to create sustaining stories out of their life and work. Like so many other people in the world, I make sacrifices to live in a way that is meaningful to me.
Most of the time, I feel lucky to be able to do what I love to do with my life. I get to write blog posts and books, coach innovative men and women, work with my piano teacher to create songs, travel around the world, and spend a great deal of time with my sons, hopefully, helping them to learn how to create an enchanting adventure with their life.
When those times come when I can’t do what I love to do, and maybe feel not so happy about that, I can remember and choose to bring love into what I am doing.
How might you bring more love into what you do today and this next week?